“We Are Together”

Povo school

Povo school students who let their love shine.

I heard these three little words many times while I was in Mozambique. Friends and colleagues would often say to me “we are together.”

And the way they said it was….special.

For example, I might say “can you help me get home after the show,” or “will you be at the cafe” and they would look at me and say, almost reassuringly, “we are together.” It would make me feel calm and safe somehow.

One day I asked Chico where this expression comes from. It is translated from the Shangaan word “hixikanwe” (pronounced hishi-kung-way).

It is one of the most beautiful expressions I have ever heard. The words…the context…the sentiment.

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Johaness…a security guard I met one night in South Africa…such a beautiful soul who I connected with instantly.

So this week’s post is dedicated to some of the wonderful people I met during my African journey, who helped make it so memorable. You have changed me.

To them I say “hixikanwe.”

Charlotte and Seamus, and Liz and Rel

Charlotte and Seamus. Young souls who taught me so much. And of course their parents Liz and Mike who were so very generous and welcoming.

Jose

Jose..artist, creator, and nice guy.

Tomas and Miguel

Tomas and Miguel from the office…and there were so many more friendly colleagues who made me feel welcome.

Helder

Helder who always had my back.

Domingues and Orlando

Domingues and Orlando from the hotel. Always so open and friendly. “We love you Mr. Jona!”

Me and Jackson just outside Nelspruit, South Africa.

Jackson who drove me around Nelspruit and shared so much of himself with me.

Chico

And of course Chico….words cannot express my gratitude.

Money Matters and Life Lessons

I wrote about the concept of money while I was in Africa. How it is simply a form of energy, neither a good thing or a bad thing, but how our attachment to or obsession with it is what causes problems.

And I was reminded of all this last night. We are preparing to sell our house. Downsizing, and selling off all the stuff we don’t need anymore. It all just seems too much now somehow, and I’m sure my 3rd world travels have had something to do with this re-framing.

Anyway, I arranged to sell one of our couches. A young man and his father came to pick it up. I watched him count out the cash, not really paying attention. I trusted that it was all there. I stuck it in my pocket and helped him get the couch into his truck. After he left, I counted it myself, and found it to be $40 short. I called Max and told him. He insisted that he gave me the full amount and that it was my responsibility to have counted it on the spot. And he was right, I should have. He was resolute and un-yielding, and I hated that.

I brooded about his for a few hours after that call. Why was I so trusting? How could I have been so stupid not to count it? It was not so much about the $40, but I just hated the idea that I had been ripped off. I hated the idea that I had a momentary lapse. I was so sure that I was right, and that he was wrong. I stopped just short of accusing him, which I would be very relieved about later.

The whole thing really bothered me, particularly because it spun me out for awhile, and I could not seem to reign it in.

This morning, in the light day, I found the missing $40. Somehow it had fallen out of the pile of cash, and under a piece of furniture. On another floor of the house no less! The universe does indeed respond in some very mysterious ways sometimes!

I immediately sent Max a note apologizing for doubting him. I never heard back from him. But that’s OK. It was the right thing to do.

So many big lessons and reminders here in this seemingly simple little transaction.