Letting Go

…it could seem like you are losing something
right now, but do not be fooled. This is simply
a turnaround orchestrated by your soul.
–Neil Donald Walsch

It’s Saturday morning of the August long weekend. I would usually be on a camping trip into the wild with my friends and family–an annual tradition I started about 25 years ago. And yet here I sit alone, typing away, at home. My wife and son are away, as are many of my friends.

There was not really much interest in the trip this year, but if the truth be told, I really did not put much effort into organizing it. My heart was just not in it. But it’s probably better this way.

The camping trip is a microcosm of the upheaval that is happening in the rest of my life. It is a very odd, uncomfortable, and difficult time of transition.

Part of me still wants to cling to what was normal and familiar, even though it no longer is.

But part of me thinks that I have to learn to let go, to stop fighting it, and allow life to happen.

To make room, and allow myself to hear whatever it is that’s calling me.

Let go. Have faith. Let god.

Letting go is different than denying or repressing. To let go of something is to admit it. You have to own it. Letting go is different than turning it against yourself; different than projecting it onto others. Letting go means that the denied, repressed, rejected parts of yourself, which are nonetheless true, are seen for what they are; but you refuse to turn them against yourself or against others. This is not denial or pretend, but actual transformation.–Richard Rohr

Let go

15 thoughts on “Letting Go

  1. Everything happens for a reason. You may not know the reason now, but as you learn to let go and trust the process, you will learn the reason. It’s not easy. Sending positive thoughts your way.

  2. There is healing to be found in letting go. Or so I hear πŸ™‚ For me the process has been more of an unfolding than a single conscious act. Time is doing its thing. It will for you too. Hang in there.

  3. One of the things I have observed in my life is that when something was taken away, something even better was given to me. Of course, the longer I held on and clung to the old (even, or especially, mentally), the longer it took to see the possibilities that had arrived all around me. I know that’s easier said than done. I guess my inclination now is just to believe…and trust that wondrous things are on their way. Sending a hug, because hugs always make things a bit better…

  4. I do not know what personal transition you are in at the moment that you are referring to. However, I do know that what you say is true. If something happens that we did not particularly want to happen, we do need to ‘let go’ of the previous life and previous dreams for the future, in order to fully embrace the new life that we still have.

  5. Love the quote Jonathan. I think many of us want the quick fix solution and let go prematurely. As Richard said, we need to own something, admit to it first, really and truly face up to it, no matter how ugly, and maybe even no matter how long ago the incident may have happened, before we can truly let go. I think what people have often done is to let go and have supposedly moved on, without even realizing what it was that was in need of letting go to begin with. “Spiritual bypassing” is the term for it. This is a timely reminder and validation for me as well, thank you.

    Any separation is not easy — in whatever kind or from whatever type of relationship. Thank you for sharing your experience. I believe we can all relate to the seemingly endless pain because we’ve all been through it, at one point, many points in our lives.

    And healing takes however long it needs to take Jonathan.

    Holding you with compassion and in loving thoughts,

  6. Jonathan, I have no doubt that you are Being strength, courage, patience, and resilience through this challenging separation experience…because you’re the one, loving soul who gave me those gifts during my darkest hours. Again, thank you so much.

    I can so relate to your quote, “Part of me still wants to cling to what was normal and familiar, even though it no longer is. But part of me thinks that I have to learn to let go, to stop fighting it, and allow life to happen.” I’m still in the process of letting go of what no longer positively serves me.

    I’ve been separated and then divorced before, so I feel you. Looking back though…I wouldn’t change a thing. I guess that’s why they say hindsight is 20/20. I learned the hard way, but the more I reflect on my life, I realize that everything fell into place perfectly, and I have faith that it will continue to do so.

    I believe the saying that as one door closes…another one opens. As long you focus on maintaining the vibrations of your true self–Love/Peace/Joy/Compassion/Freedom/Truth/Abundance–by going with the flow of the universe in The Now Moment, you will be tuned into the positive reality that your soul yearns to experience with you.

    Have a great week Jonathan. Sending you TSUNAMI LOVE WAVES my soul brother! πŸ˜‰


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