All the negative thoughts and emotions associated with trying anticipate the outcomes of an issue–real or imagined. Which leads to anxiety about something which I cannot control. And in reality, I control very little.
I often catch myself in this self-perpetuating cycle. And I know that it is such a tremendous waste of energy because it ultimately leads nowhere. It eats away at my imagination and saps my creative energy. It takes me out of the “here and now,” which is where I want to be spending most of my time. It is the opposite of trust, which is also where I want to be spending most, if not all of my time.
It also paralyses me into not acting. Easier to worry, than to actually do something about it, or so it might seem.
I have worried about just about everything you can imagine: what people think, money, career, health, my family, my friends, what could happen, what won’t happen…you name name it. And what has it really accomplished? Absolutely NOTHING! I’m still here, and the worst has not come to pass.
Small amounts I suppose may be helpful in that it can prepare me for certain situations, or help me figure out solutions to problems, but like anything else, too much is not helpful. And telling myself to stop worrying usually has the opposite effect (don’t think about pink elephants!).
Instead I will make a concerted effort to quiet the incessant chatter of my mind, to focus my energy on positive outcomes, to visualize what I would like to see happen and create thoughts that better serve me. I know this is a much healthier and more peaceful path. I just have to do it. I’ll let you know how it goes.
I will close with this wonderful quote from Leo Buscaglia which sums it up beautifully: “Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow. It only saps today of its joy.”